• Internet,  Journal

    Forget Fake News, Fake Morality is the Problem

    Walmart, that beacon of corporate immorality, just took Cosmopolitan off their shelves, because apparently scantily clad women and hot sex tips now count as pornography and of course pornography is the new fake public health crisis. Congress just passed the FOSTA (Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act) which everyone pretty much agrees won’t help victims of sex trafficking but will seriously…

  • Journal,  Relationship

    Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Have to Suck

    Whether you’re single, married or coupled-up for several years, Valentine’s Day can just outright suck. The pressure that filters down from all the diamond ads, the store displays, the need to get dinner reservations 3-4 months in advance. It’s pretty much like Christmas with family – and don’t get me wrong, I can love me some Christmas, and of course…

  • Journal,  Pain,  Series

    Pain in the Side: Blog Series 2

    In a little over a month, I will have a DRG Stimulator implanted in my back with four leads wrapping around my 6th,7th, 10th and 11th thoracic vertebrae. “Where will you park the actual stimulator,” I ask Dr. Kim (the actual stimulator is a little bigger than a box of matches). “We’ll put it just above your sit-bone on your…

  • Journal,  Pain,  Series

    Pain in the Side: My Hidden Disability Series 01

    Hidden disability surely seems a misnomer for those of us affected by them; one might ask hidden from whom? The answer of course would be people who don’t know you… the public at large I suppose. Surely the people who do know you, particularly loved ones or close friends have seen this “hidden” disability, even if only in your lack…

  • Pain

    Disabled Sex

    Let me put this out there. This is not a woe-is-me, heroic code. For me, it’s simply what is. I live with a great deal of pain… constant pain. I’ll try to make this shit tolerable, perhaps even entertaining on occasion, because the more I can make you understand, the more understanding you might be to someone in your life…

  • Journal,  Lifestyle,  Motivation,  Pain

    How I Get My Ass to the Gym

      My brother Jim, in an offhand, almost flippant remark provided the key to my (and hopefully your) regular gym attendance. I was bitching about the effort it takes me to get to the gym, this despite the fact that the damn thing is right across the street from me, as if that matters, because as we all know, getting…

  • Love and Sex Blog,  Relationship

    I fucking love you

    I sit beside you on my couch, wanting desperately to kiss you… so of course I read to you instead, reeling in skeins of text that I cough back up as I interstitially ogle your pouted lips – imagining how I might take them hostage one at a time, between my own, biting and sucking them into my mouth before…